Validating statements

"'It's hard when your friend has a sleepover with someone else.  I'm guessing you feel left out.'

"'Of course you're scared about going to a new school.  Anyone would be nervous.'

"'I used to feel jealous of my sister too.'

"'I know that you really love that outfit.  In my opinion the colors don't go together well.'

"'Your friends are upset because you're not passing the ball to them when they have open shots.  I know because the coach told me they have complained about that.'

"'When you scream like that, I have trouble listening to you and don't want to do what you are asking.  I know you are upset, and if you could tell me in a lower voice, I could listen and possibly help.'" - Karyn D. Hall, PhD and Melissa H. Cook, LPC in The Power of Validation

Validating statements are caring.  Caring for the emotions of other.


Renee Madison, MA, LPC, CSAT is a counselor in Colorado.  She can be reached for appointments at 303-257-7623 or 970-324-6928